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How can we
when paths diverge?
Two Places to Love” offers valuable symbolic language to help children process the complexities of parental separation. Its focus on difference without blame, continued love, and the child’s enduring connection to both parents.
Summary
A fish and a bird meet and fall in love, briefly intertwining their worlds—the sky and the ocean. From this love, a new creature is born, one capable of living in both realms. However, over time, both the fish and the bird realize they can no longer maintain this effort, as their differences are too great to sustain. They come to accept this as a natural progression, parting ways with gratitude for the time they spent together. The new creature, now part of both worlds, is unconditionally loved in both the sky and the ocean.
Key takeways
The “Mixed Creature” Representing the Child Belonging to Both Worlds
Acknowledging Parents’ Fundamental Differences and Need for Separate Environments (Without Blame)
Emphasis on Continued Love and Connection Despite Separation
Theoretical Framework
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Reducing Loyalty Conflicts
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Cognitive restructuring by helping the child shift away from self-blaming thoughts ("It's my fault") to a more neutral understanding ("Mom and Dad are different and need different things").
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Consistently reassuring children of both parents' unchanging love and validating their feelings, considered critical protective factors during divorce.
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